Jay "Pat" Barnes

JAY "Pat" PATTERSON BARNES Pat lived on the Barnes centennial farm (1 mile west of Mandeville) for most of his life. In recent years, he lived with his mother on the farm, and his wife, Raejean lived and worked in the Liberty area during the week. Weekends, Pat and Raejean were together until the weather and both elderly mothers needed separate attention this past year. Graduated Bogard High School in 1974 in a class of 13 people   He then went to Chillicothe's Technical Training School. For the past 20 years has worked for the MoDot. Past jobs include, farm work (hay baling, working fields, fed and milked cows, harvesting); Bogard volunteer fireman, capped oil wells in Texas, over the road truck driver, concrete finisher, construction and carpentry, delivery driver in Kansas City. His interests were Hunting, Fishing, and all aspects of Farming, Politics, BBQ & food of all varieties, NASCAR, Croquet, Cards (Pitch) Cowboy swing dancing, photography, Bees, driving the dirt roads around home which gave him relaxation, genealogy and family reunions. Pat was a kind and steward for health (under his responsibility) of farm animals & pets. Pat was a member of Mandeville Methodist church, life member of the American Hunting Club, NASCAR and Carl Edwards Fan Club, KC BBQ Society ("Wall of Champions" & 100 Club), IA BBQ Society, Carroll County Genealogy Association and a former member of the Braymer VFW (Sons of the Legionnaires'), United We Stand, and the Reform Party (Missouri & National). His favorite color was black. Pat's pickup trucks were his pride and joy. Pat was a head to toe sharp dresser. He never got dirty! Everyone else would be a mess but not him - clean as a whistle. He was comfortable in ball cap, jeans, boots, and flannel shirts on the farm to BLACK cowboy hat & boots with a 3-piece silk suit, and western jewelry out in public. He was jokester that was funny, and considered himself, just a hard-core redneck that loved country music. Pat did not lie or steal. He knew everyone and if not, they knew him. He could not go anywhere where people did not know him. Pat could talk with anyone, as he had a large range of interests.   Pat also had a lot of hard core common sense. He had an eye for details and could unravel what people were really talking about in a conversation.   Pat was a key member of Billionaire, Ross Perot's United We Stand America (1992) that transformed into the Reform Party of Missouri (1996) that transformed back to United We Stand America - a prelude to Homeland Security (2002). Our 43rd President and Pat's 9th cousin, George W. Bush enacted legislation on the subject of Homeland Security within 2 months of the conference in Elliott City, MA. Pat was widely interviewed in the U.S. and by international reporters because of his knowledge of politics and because he looked like his 9th cousin.   He was a celebrity at the conventions with the delegates and the media. Pat volunteered for BBQ Contests in Iowa, Kansas, Missouri, and Nebraska and helping these communities with feeding the less fortunate. Pat worked 112 of those events. Pat was the go to person for cooks and judges for his 40 years of BBQ experience which he enjoyed discussing. These were "date days" with Raejean to get away and have personal time with friends on the BBQ circuit or friends living near the contests. Pat's last date with Raejean was a combination Valentine's Day/Birthday night out at the Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts on February 11th entitled "Shen Yun" (history of China with ballet dance & gymnastics in period costumes).   Pat really enjoyed himself and thought he just might do that again. Since he could not eat out with confidence, the night ended with an assortment of 4 heart filled donuts. He was a stickler for details and making everyone happy. Planning to retire in April, Pat had waited his whole life to put his mark on the farm. He bought tools and supplies to fix up the farm, and equipment to process meat from start to finish. His newest passion was brats & sausage. Later, Raejean was to join him on the farm, to work with him, to get their projects done and to spend quality time together. His allegiance was in this order: God, Country, and Himself. Pat's humble religious duties towards his family and friends were based on love.  God opened many doors for Pat to experience a deeper and richer life, including his belief in God, the Holy Ghost, and Jesus. After having 1/3 of his tongue removed and reconstructed, plus his teeth removed, he was a trooper and endured the pain well without constant heavy-duty drugs (only when he was in pain). He knew the double dipping of chew and not brushing his teeth and heavy drinking were expensive lessons not only in money but in health. After he received his implants and dentures, he started to graduate away from the stomach tube and was eating more soft foods. He felt he was on his way to recovery and through what he endured; he wanted more knowledge of the Bible. He was thirsty and he wanted to quench his thirst to build up the Holy Ghost in his body that he had neglected and had seen Jesus' modern day healing in other people through deeper faith from bible study and prayer. Survivors include his mother, Kathryn Barnes; wife, Raejean of the home; one son, Jay Patterson Stumpff of Olathe, Kansas; two sisters, Donna Kay Cleveland and husband Jeff of Anthem, Arizona, and Karen Rae Kalthoff and husband David of Deepwater, Missouri; and one nephew, Donnie Yow of Denver, Colorado. He was preceded in death by his father. A memorial service will be held at the Mandeville Methodist Church, Mandeville, Missouri, on Saturday, April 1, 2017, at 12 noon. A scheduled family visitation will be held at the Mandeville Methodist Church, Mandeville, Missouri, on Saturday, April 1, 2017, from 10:30 a.m. until 12 noon. A private family inurnment will be held at Evergreen Cemetery, Braymer, Missouri, at a later date. Memorial contributions may be made to the Kansas City Barbeque Society and/or Mandeville Methodist Church and may be left at or mailed to Lindley Funeral Home, P.O. Box 47, Chillicothe, Missouri 64601. Online condolences may be made at www.lindleyfuneralhomes.com . Arrangements are under the direction of Lindley Pitts Funeral Home, Braymer, Missouri.